unorganized thoughts

unorganized thoughtsadmin on 26 Jan 2009 06:59 pm

The next time you face a challenge you think is too tough or when life places you in a situation that you feel you cannot handle, think about it for a second. Maybe you can face it, you can handle it. Because, the chances are, that everything in life so far has prepared you for it.

Who you are, what you have learned, what experiences you have had and the people who are in your life have all given you the skills to be able to do this. In fact, I can guarantee that NOBODY else will be able to do it.

The thing is, you might be the only one who would be able to handle the cards you are dealt with. Think of it as “playing position” in poker. Leveraging where your position is in the hand, you can play a better hand than anybody else on that table, because you are in that unique position. Others could have been dealt better cards, but you can still win.

unorganized thoughtsadmin on 26 Jan 2009 06:25 pm

I just recently got back from a vacation. It was not as much a vacation, as it was a short trip to visit family.

It was a trip that I had not taken in a long time, I had avoided because I was busy fighting my battles, on my own, alone. And even with their best intentions, nobody else could help with. The thing is, I strongly believe that every one of us has to fight his/her struggles and deal with the challenges on their own; that family/friends are not going to be able to help, even if they want to.

What I realized recently is that for most part that is true. However, even though you might have to fight your struggles alone, when you need to take a break, you can count on the family and the friends around you to help with that. You don’t need the help in fighting your fights, in facing the challenges, but you could sure use the help when refueling, when taking a breather.

So, the next time someone tells you, ‘let me know how I can help’, make sure you realize that the offer is most valuable even though you think there is no way he/she can help you directly, but because you know that you can take them up on the offer when you need a respite.

unorganized thoughtsadmin on 20 Jan 2009 08:52 pm

One of the more substantial challenges of life: avoid breaking

Things can break around you, but you cannot. Situations , circumstances change, but you cannot.

The things can be fixed, the circumstances can be mended, but you cannot be. Or if you can be, you cannot do this yourself. So, just don’t break.

If I was given the task of marketing the human character and spirit, the quality that I would advertise most would be that “it can be strained, but not broken”.

Some motivational crap:
I like poker, so this one made some sense.

We cannot change the cards we are dealt with, just how we play the hand.

unorganized thoughtsadmin on 20 Jan 2009 08:48 pm

I liked this part from Barak Obama’s inauguration speech today:

….Know that your people will judge you on what you can build, not what you destroy.

idealist v/s believe’ist

I am not color blind, I just see the world as black and white.

I was thinking about this today. More than a few times I have been told that I believe in people, I believe in things. I think that if something is supposed to be a certain way, it should be that way, there should be no reason(s) for it. In fact if it is not, then you need the reasons.

One of the things I believe in is the goodness of people. Unless there is a reason, a very strong reason, people are not inherently bad. If you think somebody wishes bad about you and does harm to you, he/she must have a damn good reason.

And that does _not_ make me an idealist. I think the better term is a “believe’ist” (not a believer).

unorganized thoughtsadmin on 13 Jan 2009 01:52 am

There is something about trying very hard till you achieve something. Something small, something significant, whatever it is. They(who?) tell you to keep at it. Keep working on it till you get better, till you perfect the art. But contrary to what I was taught to believe in, it is very true that practice might not always make “perfect”, but you can gaurantee it makes “permanent”. If you are bad at something and keep doing it, very soon you will get damn good at being really bad.

Let’s hope that we first get good at the art of practicing before we try to get good at something else.

unorganized thoughtsadmin on 13 Jan 2009 01:44 am

- Life is not like Vegas. What happens, doesn’t just stay in Vegas. What happens in Life and what you do, always comes back to you.

- I think I heard this in some lyrics,

“….so lonely that even my emotions have an echo.”

- Definition of “mixed feelings” - Watching your mother-in-law go over a cliff in your brand new Mercedes.

unorganized thoughtsadmin on 26 Dec 2008 01:04 am

It never ceases to amaze me that no matter where, what and how life is, there is something unique about the spirit of the holidays, about Christmas, about Diwali, about Eid, or about which ever special day you choose to celebrate, whether you are religious or not. Everyone of us needs that time once, twice or maybe an entire month a year.

In the spirit (of giving), I decided to gift myself a domain name and implement an idea I have been floating around for a while. The idea is, to provide a platform for people with ideas to solve the most challenging problem, which is to fix the world.

Check it out, and if you care, Let’s Fix The World.

unorganized thoughtsadmin on 21 Nov 2008 08:35 pm

Read this quote from a noted playwright George Bernard Shaw: “The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one persists in trying to adapt the world to himself“.

I would have agreed with that, had I not been living my life.

More than a few times, I have felt that I am way to reasonable in a world where by its very nature everybody is unreasonable. And so, it is my problem that I am unable to adapt and achieve the basic level of unreasonable-ness. I think I have always wondered why other people are different, not maybe if they are not and instead I am!

A very clever person mentioned in his book something about how to achieve something incredible, the trick is to find a balance between aspiration and pragmatism. I guess I have always leaned towards the pragmatism and have paid the price of not having achieved something incredible.

Maybe that is the key. Find that imbalance, and lean towards being a little more unreasonable, a lot more non-pragmatic.

unorganized thoughtsadmin on 21 Nov 2008 06:56 pm

I don’t want to be know when I will feel happy, but can someone just tell me when I will forget how the pain felt?

I realized this the other day. If you have been sad, instead of looking for happiness, wouldn’t it be easier to just try and get to a stage where you no longer remember pain?

Though the trick would be to figure out what your one-word reply would be when someone asks, “how you are doing?”.

Yes…the title of the post is inspired from the Dave Matthews Band song “The Space Between”.

unorganized thoughtsadmin on 12 Nov 2008 12:10 am

I have always believed that people are good. And most people want to do good. They just don’t want to selfishly live their own life. They want to do something, make something right, make something better for the world. The problem is however, most people don’t do anything.

I think I know why; It’s because they are just hoping to find someone else to do their part of making the world a better place.

Wouldn’t that be convenient, if we could outsource our “doing something good for the world” part and continue living our life? And wouldn’t it be ironic if you could outsource this, to say a country with cheaper labor and the work is making lives of cheap labor better?

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