When someone hurts us, we want to hurt them back; When someone wrongs us, we want to be right.
Ever since I heard this somewhere, it has been bothering me. Making me think of its meaning over and over again.Â I can understand the first part, thats the part of human nature I can comprehend. In love, in friendship and in life, you probably learn that from experience.
What troubles me is the second part about being right. I believed that to be only my ‘flaw’ in thinking about things in that manner. Which is why in situations where I have been wronged, I have not been able to do justice to the process without feeling more guilty and helpless than before. That is too vague. But what I am getting at, is that if that is a common instinct, a natural reaction, to try and be right, to try and be virtuous, it always causes more harm than before. Then how do people resolve things after being wronged?